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I Don't Think I Am Doing This Right: How to Study Abroad the RIGHT Way

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My name is Jaylen, a queer student of color from the University of South Alabama majoring in psychology, and I went on the Semester in Thailand - Mahidol University program for an academic year. I chose to study in Thailand to better understand queer culture in one of the most inclusive countries in the world and better my communication skills so I can work with future therapy clients from all different backgrounds.

With the first half of my time in Thailand coming to an end, one of the biggest challenges I faced so far is redefining what it means to study abroad. Before coming to this country, I thought the only way to study abroad was to travel every weekend, go out clubbing, and take advantage of currency exchange rates; however, choosing to spend a year in Thailand has made me more conscious of saving money and made the mainstream idea of studying abroad unaffordable. I soon became very self-conscious about how I was spending my time abroad because it did not seem as adventurous as my peers.

Something I later realized about studying abroad is it is very similar to the "college experience:" Most people think there is only one way to "do college" but it all depends on what the college experience means to an individual. Once I started to cater my study abroad experience to my interest and budget, my time in Thailand became enjoyable and I could finally appreciate all my host country has to offer. So if you are stuck in my same boat or feel like you are not studying abroad the "right way," then here are a few tips to "successfully" make your time abroad right for you:

1. Get comfortable with doing things alone 

This may be one of the hardest things to do abroad, especially when you might already feel isolated from being a foreigner; however, it is a skill I wish I developed earlier in my study abroad journey. There were many times when I missed opportunities because I was scared of doing them by myself, like going to a volunteer camp or exploring activities around my campus. If you possibly find yourself in this cycle, I recommend doing small tasks by yourself to build your confidence to do bigger tasks.

Recently, I have been getting dinner by myself. Full transparency, it sucks having to walk down the street by myself and I get super anxious about getting stares or thinking that people are possibly talking about me, but I am starting to get more comfortable with not caring what others think. I do not want to live a life riddled with anxiety because I will never be able to accomplish my dreams unless someone is near.

Right now, I am preparing to see my favorite Thai artist (MILLI) in person, and even if I have to see her by myself or feel nauseous the entire time at her concert, I will not let such an opportunity slide from my fingers. So, even if it may take some time or cause you some stress, I highly recommend developing a sense of independence while abroad to achieve a sense of freedom to do the things you want regardless if someone is with you or not.

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I got a haircut and dye job in Thailand by myself. I have not had a full haircut in over 10 years and was nervous about how my hair would turn out, but I really love the pink on me!

2. Make friends along your adventures 

A sense of independence can also come with feelings of loneliness. Luckily, studying abroad opens you to a world of possibly meeting someone new every time you step outside. I remember going to see Moo Deng with a friend (YES, I was not by myself but just listen) and never expected to meet a kid interested in knowing where my friend and I were from; meet a guy from Texas whom we offered to take his picture for his wife and helped us find an easy way to find events in our area (Facebook events page); and meet a man from Australia cracking some of the funniest yet most serious jokes I have ever heard. I never expected to meet these people when I went to see Instagram's most popular baby hippo, but they were stars in their own right and made my time at the zoo memorable.

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If you find it hard to start a conversation, especially with strangers, start with a compliment. Compliments are my go-to move to break the ice with strangers and make a conversation feel more natural and casual. So spark a conversation because you will never know who you will meet and how they could impact your time abroad.

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(How could I forget about our amazing bolt driver who took my friend and me to the hostel we were staying in? The driver insisted that we take a selfie. I do not know his name but if you ever get him as your driver, know you are in good hands)

3. Look for events or holidays that pique your interest 

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4. Take pictures of your experience and post them on social media 

This was such a hard one for me because I feel awkward taking pictures, especially of myself. Thankfully, my school and my scholarship requirements force me to take photos and videos, so the camera and I have become REAL good friends. I did not realize how empowering photos were till entering my second term abroad. During my first term abroad, I made so many new friends, cut off my hair for the first time in 10 years, and accomplished some lifelong goals (traveling to Thailand, going to a Thai drag show, etc.), and I never thought moments like these would end. They in fact did end.

Something they don't stress enough about studying abroad for a year is that you will always be the last person to tell your friends goodbye and you start feeling extremely lonely from it. When my friend left to go back home this December marked the loneliness I felt while being abroad. The only thing keeping me from crashing out is reminiscing all the memories I had during the fall term, and this helped me come to terms that good times will end but that does not mean more is yet to come. My videos and photos of my friends made me grateful for meeting them along my journey and encouraged me to make more friends during the remainder of my time in Thailand. So trust me, take those photos to remember the happy moments.

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5. Build your relationships up 

I poured a lot of my time into strengthening the relationships I made in Thailand since I did not have the opportunity to travel much. This opened many doors for me to receive a more local experience of my host country. Back in November, my friend P, a producer, invited me to the 2nd anniversary of the record label he works for. It was surreal to be one of the only foreigners at the event and I could not understand anything the MC or artist performing was saying; however, that could not take away this being one of the best moments of my life. Even though I could not understand the lyrics being blared into my ears, I felt the emotions and rhythm of the songs in my chest and swayed to the beat like it was my favorite song. This also marked my first time exploring more local Thai artists and they did NOT disappoint. 

Most recently, I went on vacation with my Thai friend Evie’s family. We took a 5-day road trip to the outskirts of eastern, western, and northern Thailand. Evie’s family took very good care of me by teaching me the history of the temples that we visited and encouraged me to try new things. I even got really sick during this trip and they nursed me back up to full health. Evie’s khun yai, or “grandmother” in Thai, does not speak any English, and she knew I could not understand Thai, but she would always yell at me to take my medicine or ask Evie’s mom how I was doing. I have never had such a level of love from a family that was not my own. I am glad to know I will always have a place to call home when I come to Thailand.

So take the time and get to know the people around you, that might show you a thing or two.

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(This is my buddy Evie and her endearing Khun Yai)

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(Plus Evie’s aunt is in the middle and her mom is next to me)

I am thankful for the CIS Abroad micro-credential giving me the chance to reminisce on my time in Thailand and teach others about my experience traveling throughout this awesome country. I wish someone had told me these things before coming to Thailand, but I will now let the people a not talked about enough truth of studying abroad. Whether you are already abroad or preparing to leave the country, remember there is no single “right” way to study abroad. The only correct way to optimize your time in your host country is to develop your experience around your interests and goals regardless of what others think. Hopes this helps and continue to explore the rich culture of another country. Happy travels, my divas.

 

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While studying in Tokyo for a semester, I aimed to live by the quote: "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone." Because of that, I have gotten to experience incredibly fascinating things and meet amazing people. Tokyo almost feels like a second home to me now. I am immensely thankful for the opportunity to have experienced the beauty of Japan and its rich culture.
Kenae Turner
Elizabeth City State University

Based on personal experience from my home university, Australia does not tend to be a popular destination for study abroad, likely due to its distance. However, I am extremely grateful I made the decision to come here. The geographical diversity, numerous cultural representations, and major cities so close to nature make Australia a truly unique and unforgettable country. Spending three and a half months here will be an experience I treasure for the rest of my life.

Joshua Grossman
Coastal Carolina University
CIS provided a brilliant network of people so I never felt alone, and everyday was a new adventure. I got to explore a place completely different from anything I could have imagined. It was challenging navigating a new culture, a language I didn't know completely, and a new environment, but that was the beauty of it all. No one goes abroad searching for comfort, but you learn that comfort can be found anywhere, if you know how to look.
Alisa Geise
Virginia Commonwealth University
Studying abroad has allowed me to grow as a person. I have conquered fears, experienced new things, tried new foods, and met wonderful people who helped make my experience unforgettable. I am more confident in myself and the person that I want to be in the future.
Ashlyn Holmes
Texas A&M University - Corpus Christi
Studying abroad in London has been an experience I will never forget. Living in a new country is something I think everyone should experience in their life. I've made so many new life long friendships I never would have unless I came here. I've also grown so much as a person and become more independent. The CIS team has been so supportive during the whole process. From applying to my program to arriving on campus in London. My site directors have been so helpful and supportive answering any questions I have. The social program activities were amazing and helped me see a different side of London than I would have without it. I will never forget this experience; it really has changed me for the better.
Katlynn Orloski
Michigan State University
Studying abroad changed my life in all of the best ways and CIS Abroad made it all happen!! Through CIS, I was able to make my first friends and integrate into the culture way easier than I would have on my own.
Amy Zochalski
Valparaiso University
My time abroad has been the most eye opening journey and I’m a more independent person because of it. I’m so grateful for all the experiences, friends, and memories I’ve made along the way!
Unlike many people on this trip who come with the intention of being a tourist, I feel like I had a different goal. I wanted to rediscover my culture and where I belonged. Being a hafu living in America and not fluent in Japanese, I was never really able to get in touch with my Japanese heritage. This trip completely changed that and I now have a goal of one day living in Japan for the rest of my life.
Dean Handler
University of Central Florida
The CIS program was truly a one of a kind experience. I was able to meet many students from all across America, attend several events (such as food tours or a trip to Kyoto), and make many friends. I would not trade it for anything. I am thankful I decided to study with CIS Abroad. Before this, I was thinking about just plowing through my degree, getting my master's and PhD, and immediately entering society. However, this experience changed my life. Through meeting many people from many places, and living in a new area for an extended period of time, my view of my own philosophies, culture and place of living, changed. This would not have happened if I stayed in the States. I would say if you are able to go, you should go. There is no time like the present.
Lexington Whalen
University of South Carolina - Columbia
Studying abroad in Japan was lifechanging! Embracing a rich culture, forging international friendships, and gaining valuable insights broadened my perspective, fostering personal growth and unforgettable memories.
Bricen Williams
West Texas A&M University
I knew I wanted to study abroad, particularly in Japan, because it was on my bucket list. Thanks to CIS, I was able to go to Tokyo! Even now, it is surreal to me that I got to go! I can't put it into words how much fun I had in Tokyo. I enjoyed every second of my time there, from walking around the bustling streets of Shibuya and Shinjuku, to going to class, eating delicious Japanese cuisine, and even going to the convenience store. Even the simplest things were incredibly fun to me. I was initially anxious about being homesick, my Japanese skills and traveling alone, but I'm happy to say that I very quickly made lovely, lifelong friends and was met with nothing but kindness from the locals. I learned not to let my worries get in the way of an opportunity of a lifetime. Thank you, CIS Abroad. I am eternally grateful for the opportunity I had to go to Tokyo.
Sada Chaudhury
Hunter College
During my time in Costa Rica, I took Intermediate Conversation and Cultural Photography at Veritas University. I really enjoyed how relaxed the classes were and how the teachers taught us not only Spanish, but also culture and day-to-day life. I was also involved in the biology lab here (BIOMOL) and had fun doing some lab work every week. I got to explore multiple places with my program, such as Manuel Antonio, Curubandé, and Jaco. I went surfing for the first time and got to hike some amazing trails. I highly recommend traveling to Costa Rica for study abroad; it is a beautiful country with beautiful people and memories to make!
Lauren Adams
William Woods University
I took Spanish for Healthcare Professionals and Conflict Resolution & Healthcare at Universidad Veritas in San Jose, Costa Rica. I really enjoyed how interactive my elective class was; the students often led the class by doing presentations on various topics. We also had a field trip to the local school. My favorite part of the study abroad experience was all the weekend trips. It was awesome to see so many different places in the country. My favorite trip was to Tamarindo and Curubande where I got to take a surf lesson and hike to waterfalls.
Faith Johnson
University of Michigan - Ann Arbor
This past month I spent my time studying abroad in Sorrento, Italy with CIS Abroad. The opportunity of being able to study in Italy was a dream come true! From my peers in the program to Frankie and Kayla, everyone has been so open and welcoming. CIS has done any amazing job making sure I felt prepared for my travels and was available to answer my many questions. Without CIS, this opportunity would have seemed like a dream, but they helped me turn it into a reality. I have met some amazing friends and grown into a better person during my time in Sorrento!
Alana Bergin
University of Alabama - Tuscaloosa
I’ve always wanted to study abroad, even though I was initially very nervous since I had never been over seas before. But even my imagination could never have dreamed of the amazing things I got to see and experience while abroad. I didn’t get to just see all these new places but studying abroad allowed me to have the time to fully submerge myself into so many different cultures. I’ll never forget my time over here and I will forever be grateful I was able to experience studying abroad!
Mary Claire Vaughan
University of Alabama -Tuscaloosa
CIS Abroad planned a trip for our group to Orvieto for a weekend. It was one of my favorite things I have done so far. We got to make pasta dough and fully immerse ourselves in Italian family home culture.
Summer Megnia
University of Massachusetts Amherst
I had the opportunity to work with the Department of Marine and Coastal Resources Research and Development Center in Thailand as a veterinary assistant this semester. Their facility here is funded by the royal family of Thailand and is a rehabilitation center for turtles who have become displaced, injured or are in need of surgical procedures (most commonly abscess removals). Thailand is home to 5 of the 7 species of sea turtles: the Olive Ridley, Hawksbill, Green, Loggerhead, and Leatherback! I was lucky enough to perform blood-draws, give injections, restrain, do a series of radiographs, calculate drug doses and assist in an abscess removal during my time here so needless to say I am having a blast and learning lots.
Scout Aulenbach
Berry College
My Drawing on Location class spends most of our class time outside, learning about local history and drawing our environments, rather than staying in a classroom. My marine biology class took us on a field trip to a turtle rescue center, where we learned about their processes in caring for injured turtles. 
Hannah Chan
University of Massachusetts - Amherst
CIS Abroad allowed me the opportunity to explore new places and ideas, and make some great friends at the same time! I really enjoyed my time in Japan as it let me explore both new and old aspects of Japanese culture.
Mads Muraoka
Berry College
This was the experience of a lifetime being able to spend a semester in Rome. I’ve had the opportunity to be exposed to many new things, travel to new places, and make lifelong friends!
Corrine Drew
Kean University